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Would you ever go out with someone who wasn't vegan/veggie??
Hi guys!
Would just like some people's opinion on this subject. I've only been vegan for a year and a bit (veggie for almost 10 years) and a close friend of mine thinks I'm being rediculous because I wouldn't ever consider going out with someone who wasn't vegan..Well I know its probably highley unlikely that I would ever meet the man of my dreams who followed a vegan diet, especially as I've never even met another vegan before but a girl can dream, right?! lol. I wouldnt mind if a person wasn't vegan, but I know I could never be with someone that ate meat. They could be the nicest & funniest person ever, but I think that in the long run our mind sets would be so far apart it would be impossible to be in a relationship. Since turning vegan my whole outlook on life has changed and I've gained such a better perspective on what really matters and what I want to do in life..Its made me alot more compassionate and so much more confident in a way..Which I suppose is a good thing haha :S And I find (through these sites online) that most other vegans/veggies have extremely similar outlooks on life and are all caring and compassionate people.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not looking for any type of relationship whatsoever right now, but even going out with my friends and meeting random guys, I know nothing would ever happen with these guys - Not even a kiss. Even if I fancied them and it was a bit of harmless fun- because they ate meat..Do you think I'm being a bit ridic? My friend just says 'Get over it, it's not like your going to marry the guy,' but even the thought of kissing someone who's ate meat makes me feel a bit sick lol.
She thinks I'm being extremely stupid but she doesn't understand veganism atall. Even thought I've told her about the cruelty and pain we are making animals endure just for our own selfish pleasure, she still shakes her head and makes out that I'm the one thats being crazy, and being too 'extreme!' Grrrrr it just makes me so angry., anyway, back to the point...If I was to ever settle down and have children with someone (Which hopefully I don't lol) then I would 100% bring my children up on a vegan diet. But it would be a million times harder to bring up kids on a vegan diet if one of their parents ate meat.. Or just being in a relationship atall with someone that ate meat..It just wouldnt work!?!?!! would it? What would happen at dinner time? hahaha!! Please someone agree with me, or am I being nuts!? :S I don't mind if you think I am, I'd really appreciate all opinions..Maybe some of you have had this thought, or dated someone who ate meat...
I don't know if I need to rethink, stop being so fussy and just be happy to be with any nice guy regardless of their diet!! haha... So please share your opinion on what you guys think..It would help me alot, Thanks, Jess :) X
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Comment by Ryan Ting on January 8, 2013 at 12:43pm -
You can date anyone you like. Just don't marry a non-vegetarian.
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Comment by KC Cotton on January 8, 2013 at 4:04pm -
Ryan, does your opinion come from experience? Not trying to get too personal. I've never dated a vegetarian or a vegan although I would like to. Just curious if there were deal breakers for you that could shed some light ony future relationships.
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Comment by Emily Lavey on January 8, 2013 at 4:10pm -
I am a vegan and my boyfriend eats meat...(tI don't like that fact but I understand, he wasn't raised like that and he's not informed) lol, but he is not close minded, and he says he'll like to go vegan one time! We have delicious and cruelty free dishes, don't we? And if he craves meat, he haves no prob with a vegan "meat so he'll acept my vegan dishes. People have different points of view about how they want their future relationship, and you are in your right to make happen your dream:) . but see it s a chance you can introduce someone to veganism get your partner healthier, etc etc. Sometimes people are just not informed and have bad habits, thats all. I think the most improtant thing is if they are close-minded and stick to their bad-habits.
:)
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Comment by Zahne on January 8, 2013 at 4:21pm -
Emily, I have the same situation as you and I'm already getting him off meat. He eats meat substitutes since I introduced him too it and actually found he likes soya milk more than regular. Being a vegan I understand its difficult to date someone who eats meat, but in doing so you may be able to add to our vegan community by educating them on the various myths and facts out there about veganism and the effects of animal products on our bodies. So in simple to answer the question, yes I would.
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Comment by Maria S on January 8, 2013 at 8:37pm -
I have never dated vegan or vegetarian, but I have been in relationships only with vegetarians. I have had two longer relationships and in both case man has become a vegetarian after dating me for a while.
We have been together with my boyfriend for 3 three years now and he has been a vegetarian for almost 3 years. I always thought that he is really empathic, thoughtful and aware of many things that matters to me too. He just had never even thought that he could make that kind of change and be a vegetarian. He was a poor cook but now when I’m making all our foods there are no challenges in being a vegetarian.
So, you might do a great favor for someone if you just give him a chance. :)
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Comment by Lee Moss on January 9, 2013 at 1:28am -
My wife married me 12 years ago, though she wasn't my wife before she met me. She has been a vegetarian for about 30 years. I had been a carnivor for 55 years. I am now probably more strict than she is because she will eat some cheese, I don't eat it anymore. So my advice, if you are in a relationship with someone, don't give up. Took my wife 12 years to see me change, and it was really my decision.
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Comment by Ryan Henke on January 9, 2013 at 1:58am -
Yes, I would. I think you are making a big mistake by not entertaining the notion of a wider reality.
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Comment by Ryan Henke on January 9, 2013 at 2:36am
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Considering I became vegetarian because of a woman that I dated, I'd say you are mistaken.
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Comment by Lee Moss on January 9, 2013 at 4:12am
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Nich,
You can now say you know of a meat eater married to a vegetarian, who is now also a well, plant based diet lover...me!
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Comment by Lauren Woods on January 9, 2013 at 4:16am -
To each their own. Anyone who judges you because you know what you want is an idiot, not everyone is the same, ESPECIALLY when it comes to relationships. They are complex, and if being around someone who eats meat makes you so unhappy, and being intimate with them makes you unhappy, don't do it :) I don't think it's ridiculous at all. I mean, you fall in love you fall in love- but should you stop looking for what you know you want? Never. Only you know the right path to walk when it comes to relationships. I personally would never make an exception for say a hunter, and I would say "F off" to anyone who told me that was "wrong". Because I know what I want, and that's what's right.
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